So far, she's only turned the blame on me.
Published: Nov. 06, 2023, 12:29 p.m.When I was a child, my mother was abusive. She’d threaten to send me away ; she’d slap me across the face or hit me with a wooden spoon in a rage, and she constantly gave me the silent treatment – without explanation – sometimes for days.It wasn’t horrific child abuse – there were no physical scars – but it shaped me and I’m still angry about it.I tried to talk about it with her one time, a few years back.
Therapy could help you to untangle and decode your memories of childhood. My own take is that you have been conditioned to diminish your own psychic wounds ; frankly, in addition to the physical abuse you endured, I cannot imagine a deeper cut than to threaten to send an adopted child away. I sense also that you do not want to see yourself as a victim. So let’s put you into the “survivor” category.
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