They recently learned they can’t have children, and disagree on whether to share this “terrible blow” with their families.
My wife is a private person, especially when it comes to problems. I hear, “Everyone has their own problems, so they don’t need to be burdened with mine,” at least once a week. Normally, I would think this is a good attitude, except for the big problem we found out about recently: The consensus of several doctors is that a pregnancy would kill her.We have always wanted children, and this is a terrible blow to us both, which we are working through.
In fact, it won’t even be as simple as asserting your right to grieve, even on these limited terms. If you subject her rationale to a cursory sniff test, you’ll see that calling her a “private person” is a euphemism.
If your wife doesn’t trust anyone to provide her any useful emotional responses, then she doesn’t trust anyone, period. That’s not privacy; that’s fear and insecurity that runs deep. She’d rather feel lonely and in control than take any of the risks involved with being close to other people — the risk of losing control, of learning there’s an inch of her psyche she can’t fully protect.
If I’m reading her correctly, then it was probably all she could do to trust you, and even then, I suspect she still limits what she shares with you, out of a sense of necessity. This is the woman you love, and whose philosophy on “burdens” you seem to respect. I’m not interested in changing these, nor will she change except of her own volition. I simply suggest you may have mistaken fear for “a good attitude.” For your emotional health and hers, please try to discriminate between burdening others and simply letting them in.
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