In a hyper-efficient country, we still make the effort for romance, says communications strategist Nicole Chan – perhaps not in spite of bureaucracy, but because of it.
In land-scarce, population-dense Singapore, housing is arguably a bigger commitment than marriage. SINGAPORE: By now, the phrase “BTO first, propose later” is more than a rite of passage for young Singaporeans. It’s practically become unwritten law.
And yet, even with wedding dates pencilled in and renovation spreadsheets bloated with tabs, the big, romantic proposals still come. Sunset drone shots; picnic setups that could rival the average Garden by the Bay installations; friends crouched behind bushes like wildlife photographers. There’s a whole genre of TikTok content built around choreographed “will you marry me” surprises that aren’t actually surprises.
But here’s the twist: In a city that so thoroughly systematises life, Singaporeans haven’t given up on romance. If anything, we’ve become even more deliberate about it. The Singaporean proposal, in this context, becomes less about asking an actual question and more about marking meaning. It’s a gesture of emotional agency.
It’s called “wedding contagion”, a phenomenon that reveals how the act of being observed changes how people behave, wrote Stephen Bush for the Financial Times. It manifests in the form of an emotional margin call: Suddenly, we feel prompted to re-evaluate our own paths and journeys. The ritual of the proposal delivers a form of shared, social clarity – a way to be understood across social lines.It makes sense that in a world where everyone is watching , we create public rituals to both process our private choices as well as prove them to others – both things that can be done on our own terms.Of course, not everyone has the means to stage a picture-perfect proposal. Not every relationship fits neatly into the public-private dichotomy.
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