Does online dating actually work for anyone? Here's what LieselSharabi found works—and doesn't—for those seeking love online.
, but what I took away from their stories was so much more. Here are a few of the things I learned about what made them successful, and what just might make you successful, too.Finding the right person in online dating took time—lots and lots of time. Some of the people I spoke with said they spent years cycling on and off different platforms before finding the right person. And sometimes, they found love when they least expected it.
“I wasn’t using it consistently. My cousin told me to sign up, and I signed up, I went for a couple of months, and then I got off. And when I went back on about a year later to delete it, I got sucked into looking, and that’s when I messaged a couple of guys that I was interested in." Surprisingly, most people said that they weren’t looking for a certain kind of relationship—and that they definitely weren’t planning to get married. This made them open to meeting different types of people and allowed their relationships to unfold naturally. One person said this about his now-spouse:
“I never, never had this thought that ‘I’m going to marry her.’ I was not even considering that. But her attitude, the way she talked, the way she presented herself, the fact that she just was there being herself. I did ask myself that question, or that thought did come to my mind."No one told me they chose their partner because of how tall they were or how much money they made.
“We just got along really well. We were very comfortable. I missed him when he left. I was happy when he was around me, and I could just see we had a lot in common. We had talked loosely, I guess, about what we envisioned our future to be. As far as, 'do you want to have kids' or 'where do you want to live'. And we were just kind of in line.