If we are being honest, most of us have snapped a selfie or two where we thought we looked attractive, if not sexy– smiling as the recipient texts back with excitement or as the number of likes grows.
Or do you want to take a picture to post on social media and remind the person who ghosted you weeks ago that you're still here? Maybe you're hoping your ex will regret breaking up with you. Maybe you're trying to stay relevant in the current dating climate.
Every action has a consequence. So what do you hope will be the result or impact of your taking or sharing an intimate selfie? How realistic is it that the action will elicit the desired response? I often hear the argument that we “shouldn’t” be seeking external validation, admiration or praise, but the reality is that these are normal things to want. It’s normal to want to be acknowledged and celebrated.
We can feel empowered or desperate by taking a sexy selfie; it all depends on our mindset. And, others can perceive our pictures as empowering or desperate depending on their mindset.