A Singaporean woman shares her experience of being called selfish and accused of not thinking about Singapore after telling older coworkers she does not want children. She highlights the inappropriateness of unsolicited comments on personal matters, especially from men in their 40s and 50s, and questions their qualifications given their own marital struggles. Reddit users weigh in, calling the behaviour common but advising to set boundaries and not internalize the remarks.
A Singaporean woman has shared her frustrating experiences of receiving unsolicited and intrusive comments from older colleagues about her personal life choices, particularly regarding children, marriage, and her long-term relationship.
She recounted that after revealing she does not want children, she was labeled selfish and even accused of not thinking about Singapore's future, reflecting the nation's heightened anxiety over its falling fertility rate. The majority of these remarks, she noted, came from men aged between 45 and 60, many of whom she observed were divorced, cheating, or miserable in their own marriages, yet felt qualified to critique her relationship.
They told her her relationship would not last and advised her to date more before settling down, provoking her to question why she should break up a fulfilling five-year partnership. The woman concluded by expressing that such comments are inappropriate and should be kept to oneself, asking other women if they had similar experiences.
Many Reddit users agreed the behaviour was inappropriate but advised her to stop sharing personal details at work and to develop a thicker skin, suggesting strategies like giving non-committal responses or changing the subject. Some commenters lamented that such workplace dynamics are common, with accusations that younger generations, particularly Gen Z, are unfairly mocked for not tolerating inappropriate jokes.
Separately, the article briefly mentions other Singaporean-centric discussions on Reddit, including a person surprised by high monthly food expenses after tracking spending, and a first-time Malaysian landlord debating whether to keep a difficult but high-paying tenant or risk a new one. Another post noted an employer's complaint about domestic helpers asking thorough questions during interviews, feeling the dynamic had reversed
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